Wedding Etiquette: For The Groom

An informative website for any type of etiquette, especially wedding etiquette is Emily Post. This is where I came across the “Honey Do” list. Somehow, this list should end up in the hands of every fiance. Come to think of it, the "Honey Do" list should be in the hand of every single man existing on this planet!

The Honey Do List

• Send her flowers – for no reason.
• Send her flowers for a reason – the 6 month anniversary of your engagement, her birthday, because it’s one week until the wedding.
• Take her younger siblings to a movie, ball game or the circus.
• Take her Mom and Dad to lunch.
• Give her a half hour foot massage – once a week. (Graduate to pedicure and she’ll never ask you to take out the garbage.)
• Be her personal chauffeur for a day of wedding errands.
• Leave little love notes on her fridge.
• Plan one evening a week just for the two of you – no wedding talk allowed – just romance.

On a more practical level, here are some great ways for the groom to contribute his expertise to the wedding planning. If you are:

• A techno guy, create and manage the wedding web site.
• If spreadsheets are your thing, you can help manage guest lists, gift lists and to do lists.
• A wine lover, you can help select the wines and liquors for the reception.
• Into music, research and help select the band or music.
• A car lover, take charge of all the transportation needs for the wedding.
• A foodie, help with the menu planning and/or selection of the caterer.
  

Another enormous help to your fiancé is to write the thank you notes to your relatives and close friends. Sharing this responsibility goes a long way to reduce what can, at times, seem an overwhelming task.

And one of the best ways a groom can lend a hand is by working with his parents to get a head start on planning the rehearsal dinner. With all the planning needs intrinsic to a wedding, don’t feel shy about putting your expertise to good use.

Article courtesy of Emily Post
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